Contents
Introduction 1
1 Master Your Emotional Self
The Law of Irrationality
The Inner Athena
Keys to Human Nature
Step One: Recognize the Biases
Step Two: Beware the lnflaming Factors
Step Three: Strategics Toward Bringing Out the Rational Self
2 Transform Self-love into Empathy 42
The Law of Narcissism
The Narcissisdc Spectrum
Examples of Narcissistic Types
3 See Through People's Masks 72
The Law of Role-playing
The Second Language
Keys to Human Nature
Observational Skills
Decoding Keys
The Art of Impression Management
4 Determine the Strength of People's Character 102
The Law of Compulsive Behavior
The Pattern
Keys to Human Nature
Character Signs
Toxic Types
The Superior Character
5 Become an Elusive Object of Desire The Law of Covetousness 131
The Object of Desire
Keys to Human Nature
Strategies for Stimulating Desire
The Supreme Desire
6 Elevate Your Perspective The Law of Shortsightedness 150
Moments of Madness
Keys to Human Nature
Four Signs of Shortsightedness and Strategies to Overcome Them
The Farsighted Human
7 Soften People's Resistance by Confirming Their Self-opinion The Law of Defensiveness 172
The Influence Game
Keys to Human Nature
Five Strategies for Becoming a Master Persuader
The Flexible Mind-Self-strategies
8 Change Your Circumstances by Changing Your Attitude The Law of Self-sabotage 202
The Ultimate Freedom
Keys to Human Nature
The Constricted (Negative) Attitude
The Expansive (Positive) Attitude
9 Confront Your Dark Side The Law of Repress_ion 231
The Dark Side
Keys to Human Nature
Deciphering the Shadow: Contradictory Behavior
The Integrated Human
10 Beware the Fragile Ego The Law of Envy 261
Fatal Friends
Keys to Human Nature
Signs of Envy
Envier Typcs
Envy Triggers
Beyond Envy
11 Know Your Limits The Law of Grandiosity 291
The Success Delusion
Keys to Human Nature
The Grandiose Leader
Practical Grandiosity
12 Reconnect to the Masculine or Feminine Within You The Law of Gender Rigidity 320
The Authentic Gender
Keys to Human Nature
Gender Projection-Types
The Original Man/Woman
13 Advance with a Sense of Purpose The Law of Aimlessness 356
The Voice
Keys to Human Nature
Strategics for Developing a High Sense of Purpose
The Lure of False Purposes
14 Resist the Downward Pull of the Group The Law of Conformity 391
An Experiment in Human Nature
Keys to Human Nature
The Court and Its Courtiers
The Reality Group
15 Make Them Want to Follow You The Law of Fickleness 438
The Entitlement Curse
Keys to Human Nature
Strategies for Establishing Authority
The Inner Authority
16 See the Hostility Behind the Friendly Facade The Law of Aggression 473
The Sophisticated Aggressor
Keys to-Human Nature
The Source of Human Aggression
Passive Aggression-Its Strategies and How to Counter Them
Controlled Aggression
17 Seize the Historical Moment The Law of Generational Myopia 518
The Rising Tide
Keys to Human Nature
The Generational Phenomenon
Generational Patterns
Strategies for Exploiting the Spirit of the Times
The Human Beyond Time and Death
18 Meditate on Our Common Mortality The Law of Death Denial 562
The Bullet in the Side
Keys to Human Nature
A Philosophy of Life Through Death
Acknowledgments 587
Selected Bibliography 589
Index 593